Dating an older man definitely has both pros and cons to consider. And, because everyone and their views, interests and opinions may differ, what's right for one person may not be for you, so follow your own instincts after reading both sides of the story before making any decisions or ill informed judgments on the subject.
The Upside
As most women will gladly tell you, the consensus is that women mature faster than men, usually beginning even before puberty. Following this line of thinking, it only makes perfect sense to date an older man who is more mature, more established, and more sure of who he really is and what he wants out of life. An older man is far less likely to play "head games" or be unsure of where they want this relationship to go than a younger man would be as a general rule, but of course, there is no one profile or mold that fits every single man.
Security is something that all women want, need, and find extremely attractive in a man, not necessarily only from a financial point of view but also in terms of emotional well being. Whether they themselves are career women with no concerns about money or not, it still helps to know that the men they date can take care of themselves in that department.
The Downside
In some case, an older man may be more set in his ways and therefore, less reluctant to adapt to a new lifestyle. Or, in simpler terms, an older man may be more stubborn and unable to live their lives differently than they have for all of adulthood thus far. If you find this to be an attractive feature and enjoy a challenge, great, forge ahead. But if not, be prepared for some discussion and a lot of compromising, hopefully on both of your parts.
An older man may also have the ghosts of previous relationships cavorting about while the two of you are trying to establish a new one. While we all carry around some emotional baggage from past relationships, whether we want to admit it or not, the older one is, the greater the chances are that they've been with more people.
Many older men also have children from their previous relationships, also cavorting about, which can be a touchy situation depending on your age difference and your age in relationship to the kids. If his children aren't much younger than you are, they may instantly resent you or feel threatened somehow, an issue that must be nipped in the bud and discussed by their father if you want the relationship to have a fighting chance. Or, even if they are small, are you ready to be a part of a ready-made family and possibly become someone's stepmother?
Again, only you can make the right decision in your particular circumstances, if age is only a number to you both, then move forward regardless of the difference in your years of birth, but if not, think carefully before entering a relationship and involving yourself with someone else's emotions.
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